Safety policy — dating safely on Eventide

Last updated: 2026-10-14

This page is Eventide's safety centre and its safety policy. It serves as the safety-awareness notice several states require internet dating services to give their members (New York Gen. Bus. Law §394-cc; New Jersey N.J.S.A. 56:8-171(a); Texas Bus. & Com. Code §106.006; Connecticut Gen. Stat. §21a-437, with the online safety centre §21a-440 requires; Illinois 815 ILCS 518, the Internet Dating, Internet Child Care, Internet Senior Care, and Internet Home Care Safety Act) and as the safety policy Colorado requires of every online dating service (C.R.S. §6-1-731.5). New York and Connecticut require it at registration (Connecticut by a message that carries nothing else, §21a-438), New York and Colorado require a link from the first entry point or the settings screen, and the link text must say "Safety policy".

¶Criminal background screening

EVENTIDE DOES NOT CONDUCT CRIMINAL BACKGROUND SCREENINGS ON ITS MEMBERS.

We do not exclude anyone on the basis of a criminal record, because we do not look criminal records up. What we do instead is two things. Everyone who joins takes a short liveness check at signup, which is how we check that a new member is a real person and the person in their photographs. And a human being reviews every profile, every photograph and every edit against our standard of modesty and appropriateness before other members see it. Neither is a background check. Neither can tell us who a person really is, whether they have a criminal history, whether they are married, or what their intentions are. An approved profile, a passed check or a verification badge means we checked something. It does not mean that a person is safe.

There is no substitute for acting with caution when communicating with any stranger who wants to meet you.

¶What we check, and what we do not

• Age. We ask for your date of birth at signup, refuse anyone under 18, and the date cannot be changed afterwards. We do not check identity documents to confirm it. If Apple or anyone else tells us an account belongs to a minor, we delete it.
• A real person. Everyone who joins takes a short liveness check at signup, with their consent, which checks that a real person was in front of the phone's camera, and not a photograph, a screen or a generated image, and that the profile photographs show that person. It is required to join. It does not tell us who someone is: we do not verify names or identity documents. Our Privacy Policy (§3.8) explains the check in full.
• The Verified badge. The Verified badge comes from the liveness check above. A member whose check passed gets it when a person on our team admits their profile. A member admitted without a passed check can choose to take the same check later in the app; if it passes, a person on our team compares it with the profile photographs and, if they show the same person, adds the badge. It means a person confirmed that the member is a real person and the person in their profile photographs. Members verified with selfies before 2026-10-11 keep the badge. No face template is computed and no identity-verification company is involved.
• Hosts. Hosts are verified with a face check and a photo ID, and every event they run is reviewed before it is published. This is not a criminal background screening.
• Church affiliation. Optionally, a member can give us details for church-affiliation verification, checked by a person. A badge means we checked something. It does not vouch for a person's character.
• Every profile, every photograph, every edit is reviewed by a person against our standard of modesty and appropriateness before other members see it. Messages and the short comment on a like are delivered immediately and are not read first; both can be reported in two taps.

¶What is not allowed

Our Community Rules and Terms of Service set the full standard. In short, Eventide prohibits:

• any act, threat or attempt of homicide, sexual assault or other unlawful sexual behaviour, assault, kidnapping, stalking, harassment, drugging or involuntary intoxication, robbery or theft, and any other conduct that threatens a person's safety, whether on Eventide or after meeting through it;
• sexual content and nudity; hateful, harassing, threatening or demeaning content; anything involving a minor;
• fake profiles, other people's photographs, and lies about identity, age, marital status or intentions;
• asking for money, gift cards, cryptocurrency or financial information, and every other form of scam;
• commercial solicitation and recruitment;
• sharing another person's private information;
• contacting someone who has blocked you, or coming back under a new account after a suspension or ban.

Engaging in sexual conduct with another person without that person's consent violates this policy, is against the law, and can result in criminal prosecution and civil liability.

¶While you're getting to know someone

• Keep the conversation in the app until you are comfortable. Moving quickly to text, email or another app is a common first step in a scam, and it takes you away from the Report and Block buttons.
• Never include your last name, email address, home address, phone number, place of work, or any other identifying information in your profile or your first messages. The Adventist community is small, and your church and conference already give some indication of where to find you.
• Stop communicating with anyone who pressures you for personal or financial information, or tries in any way to trick you into revealing it. Treat pressure for personal details, for photographs or to meet immediately, and sudden intense affection, as warning signs.
• Look them up. A video call before meeting, or a word with a mutual acquaintance, can help confirm that someone is who they say they are.

¶Money

Never send money, gift cards, cryptocurrency or financial information to someone you met on Eventide, for any reason. This includes requests for a plane ticket, a medical emergency, a ministry or an investment. Requests for money are the most common way people are seriously harmed on dating services. The reasons given are often convincing, and the requests often come only after weeks of warm conversation. If anyone on Eventide asks you for money, report them, even if you like them and even if you said no. Romance fraud can also be reported to the FTC at reportfraud.ftc.gov and the FBI at ic3.gov.

Be cautious of anyone who asks you to share or "test" financial details. Identity theft often begins with small pieces of information, such as a birthday or a mother's maiden name.

¶When you meet in person

• Meet in a public place with many people around, the first several times. Do not meet one person at your home or theirs. (An open home in Experience is a group evening at a host couple's home; see below.)
• Always tell someone in your family or a friend where you are going, with whom, and when you expect to be back.
• Never agree to be picked up at your home. Always provide your own transportation to and from your date, and keep your phone charged.
• Stay sober and clear-headed, and keep your food and drink where you can see them.
• If something feels wrong, leave. You do not owe the other person an explanation.

¶When you meet at an event

Events in Experience are good places to meet: you are among many people, at a gathering you chose to attend.

• Meet in the event's public spaces, such as the main hall, the dining area or the exhibit floor. Do not share your room, cabin, campsite or where you are staying, and do not go there with someone you have just met.
• Checking in at the venue is off unless you turn it on, and only our team sees it, to verify you for the event. It never tells anyone where you are inside the venue.
• If someone makes you uncomfortable, you can block them, and neither of you will see the other in the event's list of who's going. Before the event ends you can also leave it in Experience.
• Report it to us in the app, and if you feel unsafe, tell the event's staff or security at once. They can act on the spot; we cannot. At an event a host runs, you can also report the host, from the "..." menu on the event's page.

¶At an open home or on a trip

An open home is an evening for a small group at the home of a married host couple, each of whom has taken a face check and shown a photo ID that a person at Eventide compared. A mission trip is run by its organiser, not by us.

• The street address appears in the app 24 hours before the evening starts, and only to guests with a seat. Do not pass it on.
• Arrive and leave on your own, in your own transport, and tell someone where you are going. Do not leave with someone you met there unless you would meet them anywhere else.
• The hosts' house rules apply, and so do our Community Rules. If you cannot come, give up your seat in the app before the evening.
• If anything at an open home or on a trip makes you uncomfortable, leave, and tell us in the app. On a trip, tell the organiser's staff at once: they can act on the spot; we cannot. We do not run or supervise either one.

¶How to report, and what happens next

Every profile and every conversation on Eventide carries Report and Block, two taps away. From a profile, expand the card and tap Report; in a conversation, tap the ⋯ menu and choose Report, or press and hold a particular message to report just that message. Tell us what happened in your own words; screenshots are not needed, because we already hold the messages. You can also write to support@eventidedating.com.

• Block is instant and mutual: you disappear from each other's introductions, likes, matches and profile pages, any conversation between you closes, and the other person is not told.
• Report sends the profile or message to us. A person reviews every report. We aim to act within 24 hours, with safety reports handled first, and the outcome can be removed content, a warning that names the reason, a hidden profile, suspension or a permanent ban. We consider earlier reports about the same member, and earlier action we took, when deciding what a new report warrants.
• No automatic suspension. Reports do not suspend an account automatically. Eventide reviews them and may hide, suspend or ban the account; a hidden profile is not shown to other members. We may also suspend without notice where we believe someone is at risk of harm.
• When we ban. We permanently ban for violence, threats and sexual misconduct; for fraud, scams and false identities; for anything involving a minor; for impersonation; for returning after a ban; and for serious or repeated breaches of the Community Rules after a warning. We keep a record of a ban so that the person cannot return under a new account.
• False reports. Do not submit a report you know to be false, or for a malicious, biased or otherwise illegitimate reason. A false report is itself a breach of our rules and can lead to the same consequences as the conduct reported.
• Reports of harassment are handled the same way, by a person, under our Community Rules' harassment standard; report harassment even if you have already blocked the person, because a report can protect other members.
• We report to law enforcement where we are required to, where content involves a minor, or where we believe there is a credible threat to someone's safety. Our law-enforcement guidelines set out what we produce in response to each type of legal process.

¶Appealing a suspension or ban

If your account is suspended or banned and you believe we got it wrong, email support@eventidedating.com with "Appeal" in the subject line, from the email address on your account, and say why. We review the decision again in full, consider your account of what happened, may ask you for more information, and tell you the outcome and the reasons in writing. The suspension stays in place while the appeal is considered. We do not reopen an account banned for conduct involving a minor, a credible threat, or fraud.

¶When we tell other members

• Fraud bans. If we ban a member because, in our judgment, they were using a false identity or posed a significant risk of trying to get money from other members, we notify every member who received and responded to a message from them, in every state including those whose law does not require it, within 24 hours of the ban and never later than three days. The notice gives the banned member's profile identifier, says why they were banned, reminds you never to send money or financial information to another member, and links to this page. It does not include anything that would identify them beyond what you already saw on Eventide.
• Their pastor. If more than one person reports someone and our team confirms what happened, we may tell that person's pastor: only that we acted on the account, the kind of conduct and when, after telling the member first. We never say who reported them. Our Privacy Policy (§6) has the details.
• Safety bans. Where we ban a member for conduct that threatens someone's safety, we may notify members who had contact with them where we believe the notice protects those members. We decide these case by case, because a notice can itself put someone at risk.

¶What Eventide does to keep you safer

These protections apply to every member automatically:

• A liveness check at signup, required of everyone who joins, which checks that each new member is a real person and the person in their photographs.
• A person reviews every profile, photograph and edit against our standard of modesty and appropriateness before anyone else sees it, and a person reviews every report.
• 18+ only, enforced at a date of birth that cannot be changed.
• No photographs or files in messages. A message can only be text, so no member can send you an image.
• Your precise location never leaves your phone: the app rounds it to a grid cell of about a kilometre before sending, and other members see only "Nearby", a rounded distance, or a city. You can skip location entirely and type a city.
• No background location, no tracking, no advertising, no third-party code in the app.
• Block and Report on every profile and in every conversation, two taps away; blocking is mutual and silent.
• Every report is reviewed by Eventide, which may hide, suspend or ban the account.
• The Verified badge from the liveness check, and optional church-affiliation verification, each decided by a person.
• Deleting your account deletes your data within 24 hours.

¶Help available at any hour

If you are ever in immediate danger, contact 911 before you contact us.

• National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233 (SAFE), text START to 88788, thehotline.org
• National Sexual Assault Hotline (RAINN): 1-800-656-4673 (HOPE), online chat at online.rainn.org
• 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline: call or text 988
• FTC fraud reporting: reportfraud.ftc.gov
• FBI Internet Crime Complaint Center: ic3.gov

For members in Colorado:

• Colorado Crisis Services: call or text 988, coloradocrisisservices.org
• Colorado Coalition Against Sexual Assault: ccasa.org, which lists local sexual-assault support centres and explains your options after an assault

Talking to your pastor, a trusted elder or a counsellor can help. It is also appropriate to report a member of your own community.